One of the most over-used and misunderstood phrase used when it comes to issues relating to emotions and love is ‘follow your heart’.
But your heart will tell you things that you want to hear, not things you need to hear.
Your heart would let you see the beauty in a broken heart which is unwilling to be fixed.
Your heart would tell you that they love you, and can only correct you by inflicting physical pain on you. After-all, it’s just the flesh that is affected.
Your heart would tell you that they are the only ones for you, and that no-one could treat you the way they do.
Your heart would make you stay even when all the signs point out that you should leave. And that you deserve better.
Your heart would cloud your thoughts, judgements, decisions and make you see a perfect being, unworthy of mistakes, lacking blemish.
Your heart would see the perfect body, perfect eyes, perfect legs, perfect smile. Your heart won’t let you see the eye bags, the stretchmarks, the cracked lips, the unsymmetrical facial organs and index, the unattractive walking swagger. Your heart chooses to see flawlessness, and no, that’s not love.
Your heart would make excuses for them for exploiting it, and betraying your trust. “It was just the first time”, or “maybe I was at fault, I shouldn’t have”. Your heart won’t remind you that love should be patient, and kind.
You heart would make you see beyond the flaws, the lies, the excuses, the unfaithfulness, the hate, the lack of passion, the lack of interest, the instability, the profound sadness, blinding the truth and let you follow what your ‘heart’ believes is best for you.
You heart won’t let you see a plain being, whole or un-whole. But instead, a god.
Your heart would blind your 5 senses and desist it from having any access to think right and logically.
Your heart won’t let you see that you should get more, or for some maybe less. Because you feel pity, a certain obligation to be loyal, trustworthy, stay put, and not hurt the person yet you hurt yourself the more. You live in self-deceit.
And it is from this same heart that you would bleed. For you are not just bruised, but completely damaged because you gave so much room for your heart to feel, and less space for your mind to heal, and your brain to think . You let one organ control you, you let one person into your heart, and when this person tried to leave, you begged them not to go, in your words “don’t go, don’t break my heart, you live there”. And so they stayed a little longer and cut off an artery. They stayed a little longer and poked a hole in your heart, and eventually left you for you good. And now you are bleeding profusely, your heart aches, for you were left breathless.
You shouldn’t just think with your heart alone, but with every part of you. And to accept and believe that this is love, that means pledging total allegiance to accepting these flaws, choosing to endure if you can, and knowing that there exists no perfect being.
Your heart is not enough. Almost is never enough. So in this month of love, and romance, try to re-evaluate the things you’ve chosen to endure, and see as nothing, and if it is worth it. Don’t be taken to granted, and don’t take another for granted.
In the words of J Cole“You know none of us are perfect. We live in an imperfect world.”
Previously published on VelvetPitch